Self-Acceptance – Why You Need To Accept Yourself In Spite Of Your Shortcomings And How To Actually Do it
Self-acceptance – why is it so important and what can you do to become more accepting of yourself even when you feel like there’s nothing positive about you. Watch this video and find out….
There was a time when I really hated myself. I felt like I didn’t belong to this world. I was fat…. I was the third heaviest kid in high-school and everyone made fun of me because of that. And wearing glasses didn’t help either. People called me names like “four eyes” and fatso and this put a huge dent on my self-esteem.
It made it even more difficult to accept myself. Quite frankly, I was unable to. Even when I wanted to, there was always someone reminding me that I was fat and ugly.
But you know what? This “someone” weren’t my schoolmates…. This “someone” weren’t the kids that made fun of me.
This someone was my inner voice that kept reminding me that I wasn’t good enough.
Even when things went well, it didn’t really matter much to me because I never accepted it as a reality.
I kept dismissing the good things.
I kept saying that it was just luck.
So instead of being proud on my accomplishments I disregarded them as being lucky breaks.
Now on the other hand I always made sure that I remembered the bad things that happened to me. It was so natural to me to accept that as the real reality.
And this kind of thinking had a very bad effect on my life.
I started to avoid people and developed social anxiety.
My grades went down and I lost most of my friends.
I started to believe that I’m a failure.
I started to believe that there’s nothing I could do well enough.
The pressure that I put on myself was really taxing.
And eventually I stopped doing new things because I was too afraid that I would fail. And I was too afraid that others would notice this and comment on it.
With that kind of attitude I just couldn’t get a break.
So I had to change something and I figured it out that I must become more accepting of myself.
I found out that being negative all the time only made me feel bad all the time and I didn’t want to feel like that anymore.
Self-Acceptance Was The Key To Break Out Of This Mess
It allowed me to develop a more balanced look at my life and this in turn allowed me to switch my focus on finding solutions. Before that I only saw problems in my life, so this was a major breakthrough.
It also helped me repair my damaged self-esteem and develop confidence in myself and my own abilities.
So I wanted to share with you an exercise that allowed this to happen.
So if you’re sick and tired of feeling like you’re not good enough, … do this exercise. I promise it will help you a lot.
Here’s What You Need To Do
Take 10… maybe fifteen minutes and think about all the things you’ve accomplished so far.
Try to remember as many as possible and write them down on a piece of paper.
Don’t take this too lightly and don’t just do it in your head.
You really need to write it down because this list of your accomplishments holds the key to your self-acceptance and better self-esteem.
Now you might struggle to bring things to mind.
That’s because when you have low self-esteem, you have a tendency to only pay attention to negative things that confirm your negative view of yourself.
You rarely pay attention to positive outcomes and positive comments from others.
But there are many positives in your life. You just need to pay attention to these things and acknowledge them.
Accept the fact that your life is not comprised of negatives only.
So if you need more than 10 minutes to find the positives, then make it so.
Take 30 minutes if you need to. Then take a break and come back to this exercise again and write down even more positives.
Now if you think that there’s nothing worth mentioning, give yourself a break. You’re being too harsh on yourself.
You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to be proud of yourself.
And you don’t have to be the best at anything in order to feel worthy.
So just do this exercise and write down all the positives about yourself that you can think off.
Here’s The Key To Make This Work For You
For the next 2 weeks reflect on this list every morning and every evening right before you go to bed.
If you don’t do that, you will forget about these positives and you’ll get straight back to negative thinking.
First few days you probably won’t notice any change.
You will still engage in negative thinking.
But after a few days you will notice that you can stop these negative thoughts and counter balance them with the positives that you’ve written down in this exercise.
Just make sure to reflect on that list for at least 14 days and you’ll find it much easier to put the scale of self-acceptance back in balance.
Now if you need help finding the positive things in your life that are worth writing down you might want to answer these questions I prepared for you.
- What do I like about who I am?
- What are some of my achievements?
- What challenges I have overcome?
- What skills or talents do I have?
- What positive things do other people say about me?
- What are some attributes I like in others that I also have in common with?
- How might someone who cared about me describe me?
These questions should help you find the positives that will make it easier to accept yourself in spite of your shortcomings.