What Other People Really Think About Your Failures
Being afraid of failure is one of the more common reasons why people have social anxiety.
When you’re afraid that you won’t be able to perform and meet other people’s expectations, your anxiety kicks in and makes you want to avoid doing that task.
Your fear of failing and consequently getting judged for it paralyzes you and makes you not want to try out new things. Consequently, you’re missing out on life big time.
But this isn’t the biggest problem.
The biggest problem is that you’re not learning new things either.
Everybody else can learn and become better while you’re being pulled back by your fear of failure.
Over time this gap between your skills and other people’s skills becomes bigger and bigger.
This difference in skills makes you feel inferior and your self-esteem suffers even more.
However, the good news is that you can overcome your fear of failure and it doesn’t have to take you months or years to do it.
A simple realization of what other people really think of your failures might just be enough to experience a shift in thinking that stops your negative thoughts to come up.
So here’s what other people really think of you when you fail…
There are basically these 4 groups of people that you encounter in your life most often:
- Other people with social anxiety,
- Confident people,
- “Normal” or average people,
- People who care.
So let’s look at what each of these groups thinks of your failures.
What Other Socially Anxious People Think Of Your Failures
Other people who also suffer from social anxiety almost never see your failures. They are preoccupied with their own problems.
They are too busy hiding their flaws… too busy avoiding situations that would put them under the spotlight.
However, sometimes they do notice when you fail at something.
But, you know what? They won’t say anything about it because they don’t want confrontations.
To them, you’re just another socially anxious person and your failure only makes them feel like they’re not alone.
What Confident People Think About Your Failures
Well, once again, they don’t even notice them.
Confident people are too busy living their own lives, enjoying life.
And when they do notice your failures, they usually don’t care.
They have no need to put you down and they know very well that failure is a part of life.
In fact, failure is a part of every success.
There’s just no way to succeed in anything if you’re not willing to fail a couple of times just to learn how to succeed.
What About Almost Everybody Else You Encounter On A Regular Basis?
Well, the most common people that you have to deal with on a daily basis are the ones that we call “normal”.
They don’t have superior confidence and they don’t have social anxiety either.
They are simply somewhere “in-between”.
These “normal” people are no different.
They live a very busy life that occupies their attention almost all the time.
Obviously, they don’t notice you failures either.
However, when they do, they keep it to themselves. And they see you as just another regular guy or gal that made a mistake. It might make them feel a bit better about themselves, but that’s about it. They won’t put you under the spotlight because of that.
The only people who do that are immature teens with low self-esteem that need other people to fail in order for them to feel good about themselves.
What About Those Who Care?
By now, you’ve probably already noticed the pattern.
Yes, you’re right… they don’t notice your failures either.
Yes, they also have a lot of their own problems in mind.
However, when they do notice you fail, they usually offer a hand. They offer to help you out.
And they try to encourage you and give you hope that the next time you’ll do better.
They care about you and don’t want you to feel bad or discouraged.
So, as you can see, you’re free to fail. 🙂
No one will really judge you because everyone knows that failures are a part of life.