Do You Feel Like You’ve Wasted The Best Years Of Your Life?
When I was about 28 years old I thought that my life was over. I thought that I had wasted the best years of my life. All my friends that I used to hang out with in primary school were already married and had kids. They also had great jobs and most of them lived on their own.
I, on the other hand, hadn’t achieved anything yet. I was still living with my parents. I had no girlfriend. And I was about to lose my job.
At that point I really felt like I had wasted the best years of my life.
I felt like I should have had more fun during high school and college. I felt like I should have lived my life and made something out of it.
Well, if you also have some regrets and you feel like you’ve wasted the best years, let me tell you this, “DON’T! Don’t have regrets. Your best years are still to come.”
You see, your best years are not your teenage years.
And your best years are not when you’re in your twenties or thirties.
The best years are the years that you make the best!
My parents are now in their seventies and they say that these are the best years of their lives.
They are retired and have all the time in this world to do whatever they want.
They can play with their grandson whenever they want and they have no responsibilities for bringing him up.
Basically they are free to do whatever they want.
Sure there are illnesses and other problems that come with age, but the point I’m trying to make is that it’s all up to you to make your life great.
It’s not about your age.
It’s about you being willing to do what really pleases you.
Look, I suffered from social anxiety since my teenage years.
I had very little friends and no girlfriend till I turned 28.
I had no interesting hobbies.
Basically I hadn’t done anything worth mentioning. I hadn’t done anything worth remembering.
And this made me feel like a total loser. It made me feel like I missed out on life big time.
But things changed.
Not on their own, of course.
I took my life into my own hands.
I was somehow forced to do it because I was about to lose my job which was the only thing really going on in my life.
Without that job I’d be completely isolated from other people and I’d probably end up with depression.
Things already weren’t too bright for me so I decided to do something about my social anxiety.
I decided to find a way to get over it and after about 7 months of studying different books and other material and implementing what I’ve learnt, I finally got over my social anxiety.
I finally felt comfortable enough to function normally around other people.
And slowly things started to get better and better.
I started living my life.
I got my first girlfriend.
I befriended some very interesting people.
I started my own company, got married and had a kid.
And I have found out that I don’t really need “crazy” teenage experience to be happy with my life.
You see, people who don’t have social anxiety and feel the need to constantly look back at their wild teenage years or college years aren’t really happy today.
They live in the past.
Well, because there’s nothing really worth mentioning going on in their lives right now.
Most grownups end up getting employed and hating their job.
They work from 9 till 5 every day and they do it 5 times a week.
And they do this just to have 2 days off on weekends.
Most of them don’t really enjoy their life because they don’t really have the time to enjoy it.
So it doesn’t matter if you have social anxiety or not, your life will always be dictated by someone or something else unless you take it in your own hands.
If you let your anxiety be your boss, you’re letting it be in charge of the quality of your life.
And if you let your job be your boss in life, you’re again letting something else control the quality of your life.
So if you want to be happy in your life you got to take life back into your own hands.
Just take some time and think about what you really want.
Do you really want to experience wild drunk nights or do you want something else?
What is the thing that would make you happy?
What is the thing that would make you want to wake up in the morning?
Just find out what you really want and then go after it.
If social anxiety holds you back, you got to put in the effort to get over it.
There’s no reason why this year shouldn’t be your best year yet. And there’s no reason why next year shouldn’t be even better!
Once you get the ball rolling things get so much easier.
Sure you also get to experience unpleasant things but that’s nothing compared to what social anxiety does to you right now.
When you get rejected, you deal with it and you move on. But when social anxiety holds you back in life because you’re afraid of getting embarrassed or rejected, you’re not even giving yourself a chance. Your social anxiety gets you rejected without even trying.
So please, don’t give up and don’t let your anxiety be the boss of you.
I know you can achieve whatever you think would make you happy. I’m sure that even you know you could do it but you’re just too afraid to try.
Well, I say, “GO FOR IT!”
Allow yourself to go after your dreams.
Allow yourself to fail.
And allow yourself to get rejected.
Because you will fail and you will get rejected, but you will also succeed after all.
You will live the life that you want. You will live the life that you deserve.
Just keep in mind that your best years are still to come.
After all an average life expectancy is about 71 years. So why would anyone want to have the best year while still in high school and then live an insignificant life for another 50 or 60 years?
Makes no sense.
So from now on, try to make every year of your life your best year.
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