Should You Keep Things To Yourself Or Should You Let People In?
What to do when people ask you what’s wrong? Should you tell them what’s bothering you or should you keep it to yourself? Should you tell them about your anxiety and social fears or should you keep it a secret?
Social anxiety makes you shut people out and consequently they usually try to get in and find out what’s bothering you and why you act that way.
Most of the time they just want to help you. They want you to be happy and they don’t know what to do. So they ask you questions and search for answers that would give them some sort of clue what’s going on within you and what they can do about it to cheer you up.
Obviously, not everyone cares about you and your problems and those who don’t care most likely won’t even try to understand you and your problems. They will just mind their own business.
But those who do ask how you feel usually care.
Now, should you tell them about your anxiety or not? That’s a good question.
Not everyone who appears to care about you really cares about YOU.
Some people will ask you how you feel just because it feels appropriate to ask. They were programmed to act like that but they might not actually care about the answer.
It’s all up to you to decide if you want to share your feeling with them. If you think that letting things out would be beneficial to your emotional state, then do it. And if you don’t think so, just keep things to yourself.
Now there are also people who will try to get close to you just to get some new material to gossip about. These people are easy to identify because they always gossip. So if they tell you bad things about other people, it’s very likely that they will talk bad about you behind your back as well.
If I were you I wouldn’t let them in and I’d keep things to myself.
Now the last group of people who regularly asks you how you feel and what’s wrong, is a group of people that really cares.
These are people who are trustworthy and really want to help you out. They really want you to feel good and they genuinely care about you. They have your best interests in mind.
These are usually your closest friends and family members.
These are the people you should trust and let them in because they can help you.
Letting things out will not only allow you to take the burden of. It will also give your trustworthy friends the information they need to help you out.
So, if you feel like you need someone to talk to about your problems, pick someone you trust and let them know how you feel.
We all need someone we can talk to because they can always bring another perspective to the table and sometimes that’s all you need to feel better.