Life Is Beautiful Even When It Sucks
Sometimes life simply sucks. Everything you do seems to be doomed to be just another failure. And everyone around you seems to be negative and hostile.
When you have social anxiety, your life might seem like this all the time. I know mine did.
When I was still the victim of my anxiety I felt like a loser all the time.
I only had one friend and even he wasn’t really available at that time.
I lived in my parent’s basement and I had no girlfriend.
In fact, I had no girlfriend until I was almost 30.
My life sucked big time.
And I had a feeling that a life like that wasn’t worth living.
Now I’d like to say that I was wrong about that, but I can’t because I really wasn’t living my life at that time.
I barely existed.
However, my misery had a purpose.
It made me a person I am today. It made me more sensitive and caring human being. IT made me better understand other people.
And eventually, my uneventful life led me to the point where enough was enough.
I was approaching my thirties and I hadn’t accomplished anything yet.
All my high-school friends were already married and had kids. They moved on and stopped hanging out with me.
I was alone and lonely.
And my job was everything I had. It was the only piece of social life that I had and I can’t say it was pleasing.
And then one day my boss told me that my job wasn’t safe anymore.
I found myself in a situation where I was about to lose the only connection with the real world that I had at that time.
This made me cry like a baby.
However, this moment defined me.
This moment made me do something about my social anxiety.
This moment of weakness when I cried in the toilet gave me the motivation to find a way to permanently beat my social phobia.
Now, I can’t say that it was a smooth journey.
There were many ups and downs. Especially because I didn’t really know what to do. I didn’t know how to handle setbacks and I didn’t know what would help me avoid the setbacks that pushed me back at square one so many times.
But I didn’t quit.
I wanted to believe that life could be beautiful.
So many other people enjoyed their lives to the fullest.
Sure they had their share of misfortune, but unlike me, they were somehow able to get on top of their problems every single time.
In spite of their misfortune, they were able to rise above it and be happy most of the time.
And that’s what I wanted for myself as well.
I wanted to be happy.
I wanted to be happy in spite of not having achieved anything significant yet.
I just wanted to enjoy this gift of life that I was given.
Because life is a gift. Trust me on this one.
We take it for granted too many times.
We wallow in our misery, feeling sorry for ourselves, without ever thinking about how lucky we are to be alive.
And that’s perfectly understandable.
When you’re miserable it’s hard to appreciate the fact that you’re alive.
It’s hard to see past your curtain that obscures your view.
You see, recently I had a huge misfortune.
My wife and I were expecting another baby but it just wasn’t meant to be.
We were already getting excited about adding another family member and I was already planning to raise the roof of our house to add a new room for the upcoming baby.
But it just wasn’t meant to be.
My wife and I were informed that the baby’s hart wasn’t beating anymore.
We had a miscarriage.
I can tell you that this was the worst thing that ever happened in my life.
I cried for several days straight.
I just couldn’t understand how this could have happened to me.
I was miserable again.
My life sucked big time again.
But this time it didn’t get a grip on me.
This time I didn’t let myself wallow in pity for too long.
After a couple of days of crying and mourning I realized that I had to move on.
I realized that life is not a given.
I realized that life is meant to be lived.
No matter what life throws at you, you should always pick yourself up and get back on the horse.
The longer you wait, the more of the good stuff you’re missing.
So, here’s what I want to suggest to you today.
If you’re miserable right now, pull yourself out of it.
Think for a moment and identify the reason why you feel that way.
Is there something in your life that makes you feel unhappy?
Is there something that makes you feel like you’re not good enough?
What has happened recently that makes you feel miserable?
Maybe someone said something to you that made you feel unappreciated.
Maybe someone did something hostile to you.
Or maybe you simply feel bad because of a recent event where you experienced the anxiety and couldn’t function the way that you wanted.
Whatever it is that makes you feel bad, own it and use it a source of motivation.
Use it as something that will drive you forward and will motivate you to do whatever it takes to reach your goals and beat your anxiety.
Mine moment was the moment I cried in the toilet.
Now you find yours and then go after what you want.
And if you don’t know how or what to do to beat your social anxiety, try to follow my footsteps and do what I did.
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