Intrusive Automatic Negative Thoughts When Going Out
Do you ever get these intrusive automatic negative thoughts when you go out and you have to face a social situation you don’
Isn’t it strange how this almost never happens when you’re at home, behind your computer or watching TV?
Why is it so? Why do you get anxious outdoors but not when at home?
And an even better question, “What can you do about it?”
Here’s the thing, the appearance of these automatic negative thoughts or ANTs is caused by your belief system.
When you’re someplace “safe” like home you function just fine.
You’re somewhat relaxed and your focus is mostly on the things that don’t make you anxious.
Sometimes your mind wanders off and you start daydreaming. But most of the time you’re at peace. You’re calm and collected.
But whenever you have to go out and face a situation where you don’t have full control over what’s going to happen, your mind goes crazy.
All these automatic negative thoughts come up and you just can’t stop it.
The only thing that seems to work is removing yourself from that situation.
This happens because your belief system wants to warn you about danger. It wants to tell you that you’re not safe in that situation.
Your subconscious responds like it’s a life-threatening situation and wants you to flee right away.
This would actually be an appropriate response if the situation was really life threatening, but sadly this happens even when you go to the grocery store.
So what can you do to improve your response to social situations?
Well, the only way to completely eliminate fear is to change your limiting beliefs.
This however can take time but I’d actually like to give you a quick solution you could use right away.
So, here’s what you should do when these intrusive negative thoughts come up.
Start being grateful.
Look at the situation as an opportunity to grow.
You’ve been put into it because the “Universe” wanted you to grow. The “Universe” wanted you to gain a new experience.
You see, if as a baby you didn’t want to see what’s beyond the cradle, you’d never learn to walk and you’d never learn to speak.
But you were born to be great… to be great in your own way.
Not everyone was meant to become super successful and super popular. But every one of us was given an opportunity to see this world and expand our experience beyond the cradle… beyond the comfort of our own homes.
And that’s what we need to be grateful for.
Just try to be grateful for the stressful situation you find yourself in and you will notice that your attitude will change.
Maybe you will experience a huge shift in your mood or maybe just a small one. But I’m sure that you will notice the shift.
I know it’s hard to do it when your whole body screams and wants you to get out of there, but you really got to try this. You’ve got nothing to lose.