How To Feel More Comfortable Around Other People
How often does it happen to you that you feel awkward around other people because you don’t know what to do or what to say?
If you think that this happens too often and you’d like to feel more comfortable around other people, then read on because I’m going to give you a simple tip that will help you solve this problem.
Many moons ago I used to feel awkward around other people.
I didn’t know what to say and that made me feel very self-conscious.
I used to think that I was responsible for starting conversations and keeping them going.
I hated the awkward silences because they made me feel like I was responsible for them.
Since back then I didn’t know what to say to break the silence, I tried to avoid social situations altogether.
But, I’ve come a long way since then and I want to share with you a simple trick that you can use.
Here’s what you can do to feel more comfortable around other people…
Get them to talk about themselves.
Most people love to talk about themselves. In fact, most are so self-centered that they don’t even listen to what you have to say.
Take advantage of that and make them talk.
Ask them an open-ended question.
Don’t ask them anything that they could answer with a simple “yes” or “no”.
That would quickly stall the conversation.
So, don’t ask them how they’ve been, because that’s something they can answer with a single word – “Fine”.
Instead, ask them what they did over the weekend. Or ask them something that you think is more appropriate for that situation. Just make sure that the question is open-ended.
Then, pay attention to what they say.
When you notice that they are getting excited about something, encourage them to tell you more about it.
When you let them know that you’re interested in what they have to say, most people will start to treat you differently.
They will feel good around you because you’ll make them feel good by making them talk about something that makes them feel good.
They will have positive feelings about you.
Just make sure to throw in some feedback because it would look weird if you only asked questions.
If you decide to follow this tip, you’ll become more and more comfortable talking to other people.
By making them talk about themselves, you’ll be able to direct focus on them, which will help you disengage from the negative self-talk.
With practice, you’ll become much better conversationalist, especially if you decide to hone your social skills and take appropriate action.
If you think that you wouldn’t be able to pull this off, you probably have deeply rooted limiting beliefs that cause you to feel this way. Just the thought of having a conversation might make you feel anxious.
If that’s the case, you might want to start working on your anxiety and limiting beliefs first.
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