Going To A Restaurant Alone…
It was difficult. It was very difficult for me to go to a sit-down restaurant alone. I hated it.
Whenever I went to such a restaurant alone I felt like I was hogging a table that could have been used by 2 to 3 other people. And I had a feeling that everyone was judging me for being there alone.
Some people might have been thinking that I was just taking up space and that more people could sit behind that table. Then again, other people might have been thinking how pathetic I was for dining in a restaurant alone.
And I also had a feeling that waiters were looking at me like there was something wrong with me.
And I didn’t really know how to act around waiters. I didn’t know how to talk with them.
Should I greet them first or should I wait and let them welcome me to the restaurant?
Should I take the time to look at the menu or should I order something right off the bat?
Should I order something to drink first and then choose something from the menu?
It just made me feel very uncomfortable and anxious going to restaurants alone.
But you know what?
My fears and anxiety were totally unnecessary.
In reality most people mind their own business. They don’t care if you eat alone or not. They don’t care if you’re single or not.
When they look at you, they don’t look to judge you.
They look because they want to check if they know you from somewhere.
They look because they are bored while waiting for their food to come.
And they look without even knowing that they look. It’s very likely that they are caught in their own thoughts and they don’t consciously know they are looking at you.
So stop caring about them. If you want to go to a sit-down restaurant just go and enjoy your meal.
However, if you think you can’t do it yet, practice going out alone by going to places where it’s common that there are other people alone… places like coffee shops and fast food restaurants.
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