Get Over It!
Has anyone ever told you that your anxiety is all in your head and that you should just get over it? How did you feel when you were told that?
Did you believe them or did you feel like someone’s just stepped all over you?
You see, when I still suffered from social anxiety disorder I was told quite a few times that it was all in my head and that I should just get over it… that I should just “man up” and stop being shy.
This only made me feel worse because it reminded me that I couldn’t.
It made me feel worse because I felt like a loser for not being able to just get over it.
You know, when someone tells you to get over it, it implies that it’s possible to just get over something. If someone you trust tells you that you just have to change the way you think and become more positive and things will change… a part of you believes them.
A part of you believes that they are right and that it’s possible to do it just like that.
But the bigger part of you knows that you just can’t do it.
Internally you know that you can’t just get over your social anxiety.
It can’t be done just by telling yourself that you won’t get anxious anymore and that you’ll be confident all the time from now on. It just doesn’t work that way.
And when this happens… when someone tells you that you just got to get over it, you got to understand that they just want you to get better
They want you to be happy.
They don’t want you to be anxious and depressed.
And they don’t want you to be locked in your home all the time and not have a life.
Usually, they want all the best for you. They want to have fun with you and that’s why they say these things to you.
They don’t know any other way.
They don’t have social anxiety so they don’t know that you can’t just get over it. But they only want the best for you. And they think that saying these things would help.
But it doesn’t.
However, realizing that they just want to help might be good for you because it changes your focus away from your negative thoughts.
You see, as I already said before, when someone told me to just get over it, I used to feel bad about myself because I was unable to do it.
But once you consciously realize that they just want to help you, you cannot get upset about this anymore. These words lose their negative power over you.
And it might even encourage you to actually do something about it instead of becoming all depressed and defensive.
The reality is that social anxiety can be overcome.
You can get over your social anxiety!
Not in a way that other people think you can. Not in a way that you just say to yourself that you’ll be confident from now on. You don’t do it with positive affirmations.
But there is a way to do it.
There is a process that you have to go through and in the end you can be anxiety free.
I went through this process myself.
Years ago I used to be very anxious. I had all sorts of problems because of my anxiety and these problems forced me to start working on overcoming my social phobia.
I had studied at least 2 dozens of books on social anxiety, confidence, self-esteem, personal growth.
And I also completed the neuro-linguistic programming practitioner training that I paid 2000$ for. And believe me, it wasn’t easy to attend the class and perform different exercises in front of other people.
So I actually invested quite a lot of money and energy into overcoming my social anxiety and I did it because I felt like this was a really important thing to do in my life.
And sure it was expensive, but the benefits are enormous.
Now the good news is that you don’t have to spend that much money on learning what works and what doesn’t because I’m willing to share with you what I have learnt.
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