Get Comfortable Making Phone Calls In Front Of Other People
Do you find it hard to make phone calls? Do you get anxious and tense when you have to pick up your phone and call someone?
If you find yourself getting anxious before making a phone call, this article might help you out because I’ll give you the tips that will make you feel more comfortable making those dreaded calls.
You see, this used to be the story of my life. Every time I had to call someone, my mind started racing and I came up with so many excuses that blocked me from doing what I had to do.
I postponed making phone calls all the time.
When I had to do it I could always find something else to do that needed to be done before calling someone.
This was a big problem because my job required me to make phone calls and arrange a future meeting over the phone.
Obviously, the work that had to be done started to fall behind and my boss wasn’t too happy about that.
Soon I had to face him one-on-one about this problem and I was told to do something about it or else I could lose my job.
In general, my social anxiety often got me in trouble at work because I couldn’t do my job properly and in time.
Everything that involved my coworkers and other people made me perform at a much lower level than I was capable of. And making phone calls was one of the hardest things I had to do.
Whenever I had to make an important business call I waited for all my coworkers to leave the room before I could pick up the phone and make that call.
This later made me realize what were the reasons why I was so afraid of making phone calls.
I realized that I didn’t want my conversations to be overheard by other people because there was a chance that I’d say something inappropriate and they would pick on me because of that.
I just didn’t want them to see me stumbling and mumbling over the phone. I didn’t want anyone to see me making mistakes.
Now since my calls always had a purpose and I had to come up with some sort of result at the end, I was also afraid of not being able to arrange a favorable result over the phone.
And I was afraid that other people would notice how incompetent I was.
I also noticed that I was afraid that I wouldn’t know what to say and how to say it. Consequently, the person on the other side of the line would think that I’m incapable of doing my job.
Basically, I noticed that the reasons why I was so afraid stemmed from the fact that I had very low self-esteem that was mostly based on other people’s opinions of me. And I didn’t want it to get any lower. I didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of other people.
Once I started working on overcoming social anxiety, things started to change.
My self-esteem started to improve, the anxiety got less and less intense and consequently, my phone phobia went away as well.
Now since beating social anxiety doesn’t happen overnight, I’d like to give you a few tips on how to lower your anxiety while making phone calls. This will help you feel less anxious on the phone without having to deal with a bigger problem called social anxiety. However, I do recommend that if you do have a social anxiety disorder that you do try to get on top of that problem as well.
Quick Tips For Releasing Your Phone Anxiety
So here’s a quick solution. If you want to feel less anxious about making phone calls, you need to learn how to relax. You need to learn how to calm down and just be in the moment.
It won’t help if you are thinking about all the things that could possibly go wrong.
So, learn how to relax.
How To Relax Before Making The Phone Call
There are actually many ways to calm down and one of the most commonly practiced is the deep breathing technique. It allows you to catch your breath and relax.
You see, when you get anxious your breathing pace becomes faster and as a result, you experience hyperventilation.
The problem with hyperventilation is that you’re letting out too much carbon dioxide too quickly. Your body actually needs carbon dioxide, and when you breathe too fast or breathe in too much, you upset the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide that your body needs to function normally.
That’s why it’s so important for you to regain control of your breathing. You need to do your best to slow down your breathing so that you can regain your carbon dioxide. OK?
The easiest way to do this is to breathe in slowly through your nose. Make sure this takes at least 5 seconds.
Then hold your breath for 2 or 3 seconds and then breathe out slowly through your nose or through pursed lips like you’re whistling. And make sure this takes at least 7 seconds.
It will feel highly unnatural at first, but it will help your body regain some of the carbon dioxide that it desperately needs during anxiety attacks.
Repeat this procedure a few times until you actually feel OK again.
Once you feel better, you can pick up the phone and make that call.
Another very effective way to calm down and relax is to practice a special emotional freedom technique that brings your level of anxiety down in just a couple of minutes.
I’ve made a special video where I show you this technique and you can watch it by clicking on the link above.
Preparing Yourself For The Phone Call
Now the third way to calm down is to prepare yourself for the phone call beforehand.
This used to help me a lot because it helped me organize my thoughts and made the goal of a conversation very clear to me.
This allowed me to become less confused and more relaxed before picking up the phone.
So, here’s how to prepare.
Before making the phone call answer these questions:
- What do I want to achieve with this phone call? What is my end goal?
- Why do I need to achieve that? What are the benefits that I’ll get if I reach my goal?
- What needs to be done if I want to reach that goal?
- Who needs to do what in order for this goal to be reached?
- When does it have to happen? When is the end date for this goal?
When you answer these questions you’ll have created a big picture of what needs to be accomplished and how. This will make you feel better prepared for the phone call and consequently, you’ll feel less stressed and more relaxed.
Now pick one technique or strategy that I just shared and try it out. Practice it and make it your own. Once it becomes a part of you, you’ll find it even more effective.