What To Do If You Don’t Feel Like Socializing
When you have social anxiety, socializing can be difficult. Unfortunately, not socializing only makes your situation worse. That’s how I lost almost all of my friends!
Whenever my friends called me to go out with them I tried to find an excuse not to go. Eventually, they stopped calling and we grew apart.
I ended up very much alone and lonely.
But I refused to admit to myself that this was a problem. I actually tried to convince myself that I’m better off being left alone. And it worked for a while. I believed that I’m perfectly fine being alone. I believed that this gives me more time to do whatever I want, whenever I want.
But my unwillingness to socialize eventually led me to feel depressed and lonely. Don’t let this happen to you.
Here’s What I Found Helpful When I Didn’t Feel Like Socializing
First, realize that you’re not alone. Even the most social people want to be left alone sometimes. It’s completely normal to not feel like socializing. It can very be draining, especially if you have to talk to people who are not contributing anything to the conversation you’re having. So, don’t beat yourself up when you don’t feel like socializing.
Secondly, ask yourself, why you don’t feel like socializing in the first place.
This is a very important question because it will help you understand what you need to do to change that if the change is actually necessary.
So, is it because you’re tired and you simply need to recharge? In this case, I suggest that you book some time in your calendar that is meant just for yourself and recharge.
This is the time that you’re allowed to say “no” to invitations. This is the time when you can do whatever you like to do and helps you relax.
Besides this “time for yourself”, book some time in your calendar for socializing. This is the time dedicated to socializing and since you have it on your calendar you’ll be ready for action. You’ll be prepared for socializing and you won’t feel like your time for yourself is being stolen from you. 🙂
In case you don’t feel like socializing because you lack social skills and that makes you feel uncomfortable around other people, you need to improve your conversation skills first.
In case you don’t feel like socializing because you’re afraid of rejection, embarrassment or being laughed at, you probably need to start working on these social fears first. These fears cause social anxiety and unfortunately make you miss out on life big time. I don’t want this to happen to anyone. We have this one life, so why waste it, right?
The good news is that social anxiety can be beaten and I’m not talking about meds here because meds only mask the symptoms.
If you want to actually OVERCOME social anxiety, you need to eliminate the negative beliefs that you have about yourself and other people… beliefs that are causing you to get anxious in social situations.
There are many ways to work on your beliefs and you can do your own research if you want to. In case you want to simplify the process and do what I did to beat my social anxiety, I suggest you check out this short video.
It’s where I explain the whole process that I went through to overcome my social phobia. It’s the exact same process that I taught many others so they could beat their social phobia. If you think you’re ready, take this course.