I’ve Done Everything To Overcome Social Anxiety And Nothing Worked – There Is Still Hope!
You feel like you’ve done everything. You’ve tried this and you’ve tried that but nothing ever changed. No matter how hard you’ve tried, you seem to be stuck with your social anxiety.
You’ve tried affirmations. You’ve tried positive thinking… and of course it didn’t work.
Your subconscious refuses to believe these positive thoughts. Your subconscious is being operated by your limiting beliefs that you have and these beliefs are usually the complete opposite of positive affirmations. That’s why you can’t overcome social anxiety with positive thinking and positive affirmations alone.
Maybe you’ve even tried exposure therapy and again it didn’t work because when you go out there and you expose yourself to stressful social situations that make you anxious, your subconscious fires the fight-flight-freeze response that is supposed to warn you about the danger. Consequently you get to experience the symptoms of social anxiety and these symptoms make you want to leave this situation. And when you leave social situations before the level of anxiety drops to a normal level, you actually send the wrong message to your subconscious mind.
You tell it that “escaping” is the right thing to do to in stressful situations and this gives it another confirmation that social situations are dangerous and that you should avoid them at all costs. That’s why exposure therapy alone doesn’t work.
Now you might’ve even tried therapy and again, it probably didn’t work.
Well, because some therapists are just psychologists that have learnt how to deal with certain problems but they never had social anxiety themselves so they don’t know exactly what you’re going through. They just want to help you with what they’ve learnt and that’s usually cognitive behavioral therapy.
Somehow, cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT has very limiting effects.
You see, CBT is very much about rationalizing your automatic negative thoughts. It’s about stopping yourself in a moment and thinking about how you feel and trying to see things from a different perspective. Trying to see that social situations are safe and that nothing bad can happen to you.
However, once again, this happens on your conscious level. Your rational mind is conscious mind.
But your irrational or subconscious mind works differently and is way more powerful than your conscious mind. So no matter how hard you try to change your automatic negative thoughts you can’t do it because your subconscious still believes that social situations are dangerous.
So when you think that you’ve already done everything to overcome social anxiety and nothing has ever changed you get this feeling of hopelessness and helplessness.
This can also make you feel depressed.
It can make you feel like you’ll never be able to overcome your social phobia.
However, let me ask you a question…
Have you really done everything yet to overcome social anxiety disorder?
Have you really tried every single thing that exists out there?
You see, you simply cannot and should not feel hopeless until you’ve tried everything.
If you tried everything you would not have social anxiety right now.
There are people who were in the same situation as you are right now and they successfully overcame their social anxiety disorder.
So they must have done something that you haven’t done yet.
And now you only have 2 options.
You can feel sorry for yourself and continue to believe that you’ve done everything but you’re just different and unable to ever overcome social anxiety.
Or you can try to extract something positive from what you’ve just read.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself this post should make you feel optimistic again.
It should help you realize that you simply haven’t tried everything yet… which means there’s still something you can do.
And you need to understand that you shouldn’t feel hopeless and helpless just yet.
You might feel like this but try not to.
Try to see other people who have successfully overcome social anxiety as something you can strive for.
If they were able to overcome social anxiety, so can you.
I’m pretty sure that many of them had even bigger problems than you have right now and yet they did it.
And I’m sure they also felt hopeless and helpless at some point while they still suffered from social anxiety.
But the point that I’m trying to make is that you need to pull yourself out of these feelings and you need to become positive again.
Then try doing something that you haven’t done before and keep moving forward until you succeed.
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