Anxiety About Taking Out The Trash And How To Solve It
Isn’t it strange how social anxiety affects your ability to do even the simplest things like taking out the trash? It’s just crazy.
I can still remember how I used to check out if a neighbor was outside before I opened the door and took out the trash.
I stopped at the door and listened closely if I could hear someone coming. If I couldn’t hear any noise, I slowly opened the door and looked carefully for any signs of people being outside.
It was only after I was completely sure there was no one there that I went out and got rid of the garbage.
Silly, isn’t it?
But that’s how my social anxiety made me feel… completely stressed out about meeting people I knew and having to talk with them.
Here’s what helped me a lot…I made a list of things I could say if I actually met someone. I could make a comment about the weather. Now, I would only use this one if there was something special about the weather, like it being extremely windy or something.
I could also ask them what they are doing or what they are up to? People usually like to talk about themselves and that would put most of the attention on them, which would ease the anxiety.
I could also ask them if they are going somewhere special.Basically, I’d try to switch my focus on them and get THEM talking. If they said something interesting I would try to remember that and ask them about that thing the next time we’d meet.
People appreciate it when you remember things they say and you ask them about it some other day.
Now, I also had a couple of excuses I could use to leave a situation and get back indoors.
This allowed me to elegantly remove myself from that interaction whenever I felt that I’d likely run out of things to say or ask.
Having this list of things to say allowed me to feel less anxious taking out the trash and meeting people I knew.
It made me feel better prepared because it minimized the chances of me saying something stupid and embarrassing myself.
I realized that my social anxiety was often a consequence of me not having proper social skills.
Because I didn’t know what to talk about, where to put my hands and how to hold eye contact without freaking people out… I actually felt weird around other people. I felt like they could see right through me and see how incompetent I was.
Building social skills allowed me to feel less awkward around other people.
If you feel awkward around other people and you rather avoid them, you might want to do something about improving your social skills.
The most obvious thing to do might be to actually practice talking with as many people as you possibly could.
BUT I don’t think that this is the best approach for someone who suffers from social anxiety.
Simply going out there and talking with as many people as you can, would probably make you so anxious that you’d feel even worse about yourself.
After just a couple of failed attempts to approach other people you’d feel devastated and you’d start beating yourself up because of that.
The best solution is to first learn how to start a conversation, how to keep the conversation going and how to politely leave the conversation. Once you know these things you can start to practice and so become more comfortable talking to other people.
It’s a proven step-by-step system for overcoming social anxiety and building social confidence and social skills.
If you think you’re ready to change your fortunes, just take the course and make that change.