Social Anxiety Advice is a self-help resource for everyone who is determined to overcome social anxiety for good and wants to be able to function normally in each and every social situation. The project is headed by a licensed NLP practitioner Andre Sossi.
Hi. I’m Andre Sossi
If you are getting excessively anxious in social situations, you most likely suffer from social anxiety.
By now you’ve heard all the unsolicited advice you can handle from your parents and your friends.
But their advice is usually not accurate.
They tell you to get out more and socialize like other people do.
They tell you to just man up and act more confident.
They tell you that if you act confident, you will become confident.
They tell you to stop being lazy and get a life.
Now here’s the thing. They all want you to get better. They want you be happy and live a normal life.
But unfortunately most people who want to help you don’t know how to do it.
So they end up giving you advice that usually gets you angry and even more frustrated.
And most of the advice sites out there are really just another sounding board for complete strangers to dish out advice based on their personal experience.
Most of the time it’s just random people rambling and ranting about their social problems and how their life sucks.
So here’s where I step in.
I Had Social Anxiety Myself
I had suffered from social anxiety for more than 20 years. I first noticed that my shyness was more extreme than normal when I hit puberty.
That’s when I realized that I don’t really feel comfortable in social situations. And that’s when I realized that getting a girlfriend wouldn’t be an easy task. How could it be if I couldn’t even think about approaching a classmate I liked.
I wouldn’t know what to say. I wouldn’t know where to put my hands. I wouldn’t know how to act.
Well, after realizing that I had a problem, things only went downhill.
At that time I didn’t know it was social anxiety. Everyone was telling me that I’m just shy and that it will pass. But it didn’t.
Year after year I felt worse about my self and my situation.
Gradually I lost most of my friends from school until one day I realized I was all alone.
My “ex-friends” all had a life.
They got girlfriends… got married… had kids… had great jobs…
And I was left behind.
After finishing college I still had no girlfriend. I lived with my parents and I had no hope of ever landing a job.
I dreaded all social situations and there was no chance in hell I could ace a job interview.
So when I hit 30 I had no life and felt like a worthless loser.
And that got me thinking.
Do I really want to feel like that?
Do I really want to spend my life being afraid of everything?
Do I really want to wait for a miracle to happen?
NO! I waited long enough and nothing good ever happened.
There was no miracle. No change in how I felt about myself.
So I had to do something about it.
It dawned on me that, if my life was going to change, I was the guy who was going to have to effect that change.
Nobody was going to help me. There was going to be no magic. I’d given it 30 years waiting for the magic.
So I went on a mission to find a permanent solution for my social anxiety. I spend years searching for it… learning new stuff… learning CBT, NLP and EFT until I finally had a breakthrough.
From then on it only got better. Sure I still had some setbacks but in general my life was becoming normal again.
I began socializing.
I started dating.
And soon I found a lady that got into my heart and made me fall in love.
We’re now married and have a beautiful baby son.
When I had social anxiety I didn’t think something like this was possible for me. I thought I was going to dye alone and lonely.
And that’s why I decided to start this website.
I wanted to show you that there is hope. There is light at the end of the tunnel… even if you can’t see it right now because you’re deep in the tunnel yourself.
So I started this website to help you better understand your social anxiety and find the solution that works best for you.
I answer YOUR questions.
I try to make your situation as painless as possible so you can start to enjoy your life the way that you should.
My posts answer your questions and I’m sure you’ll be able to find something that will make you feel understood and not alone.
I’m sure you will find something that will help you feel better and get you excited to become the power of change yourself.
But please read carefully before you get started…
I am not a psychiatrist and I am not therapist. The advice at this website should never replace proper, personalized medical care.
Also you and I do NOT have a Doctor-Patient relationship of any kind.
What this means is, before you try any solution I offer, you should run it by your psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist first. I do not know your specific circumstance; therefore I cannot say with certainty that something safe for one person is necessarily safe for you.
Instead, think of this website as a reliable resource from an ex social anxiety sufferer to someone who still has to deal with it.
I want you to feel good knowing you are not alone.
And I want you to find the answers to the private and sometimes embarrassing questions you don’t feel comfortable discussing with anybody else.
So if you’re ready to go on a journey to become comfortable in social situations, I recommend you begin here: