Why So Many People Fail To Overcome Social Anxiety
There’s a reason why so many people fail to overcome social anxiety and most people don’t know what that reason is.
It would be too simple to say that they didn’t really try hard enough.
You’ve probably tried to do something about it before and since you’re still looking for the right solution, I’m guessing that it didn’t really work out for you.
And you might have tried a lot of things and you might have tried really hard to beat your social phobia.
And it didn’t work.
Why is it so?
Well, I’m gonna be a bit controversial here and you might not like what I’m about to say.
BUT please put down your defenses and really take in what I’m about to say.
I really want to help you!
So, here’s the thing….
You have social anxiety for a reason. It keeps you away from social situations where you could get embarrassed, rejected or laughed at.
Your social anxiety protects you from getting emotionally hurt!
It looks like having social anxiety has its benefits.
You might be mad at me because I’m saying that, but right now, subconsciously YOU BELIEVE that you need it.
I know, this is not what you’d want to hear, but once you take this in and accept your current situation without being delusional, you can start to change that.
You see, right now, your subconscious sees many BENEFITS of you having social anxiety.
Your subconscious believes that social anxiety protects you from experiencing emotional pain.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t see the emotional pain you ARE already experiencing right now because of having social anxiety.
So here’s THE SOLUTION.
The benefits of not having social anxiety need to outweigh the benefits of having it.
Now, since most people only focus on the anxiety itself and the bad things that come with it, they never take the time to think about the good things they would experience if they didn’t have social anxiety.
This is not called daydreaming.
This is searching for the benefits that would convince you to do whatever it takes to beat social anxiety.
Plus, having these benefits in mind helps you prevent self-sabotage, which is something many people unknowingly do when they try to beat social anxiety.
So, here’s what I suggest…
Find your reasons WHY you want to overcome social anxiety.
I know this sounds obvious and you probably think that you already know why you want to beat your social phobia.
BUT do you really?
Have you ever really asked yourself why you don’t want social anxiety to control your decisions and your life anymore?
Be truthful to yourself here.
Do you want to do it because it makes you experience the unpleasant symptoms like blushing, excessive sweating or racing heart and you don’t want other people to see it?
Do you want to do it because you want to be able to talk with anyone… not just people you’re already comfortable with but also people you find interesting or attractive?
Do you want to do it because you’re single and you want to have that someone special in your life?
Do you want to do it because you don’t have many real friends and you simply want to have friends that you can hang out with and enjoy your free time with?
Do you want to do it because you want a better job that is better paid and actually fulfills you and makes you fill useful?
Is it all of the above?
WHAT ARE YOUR REASONS WHY?
Please, give yourself a favor and find your BIGGEST reasons why you want to overcome social anxiety. This shouldn’t take more than 5 minutes but will give you that drive that you’ll need to beat social phobia for good.
Once you know your reasons, write them down on a piece of paper.
The purpose of this is not to remind you that you’re not where you want to be.
The purpose is to provide an abundance of motivation to do what’s needed to overcome your social fears and build rock-solid confidence.
By the way, this exercise alone was crucial to my success.
I’ve tried to defeat social anxiety too many times and I always ended up at square one… just because I didn’t start right…
… and I don’t want you to make the same mistake that I did so many times.