I Can’t Handle Social Anxiety Anymore – What Can I Do About It?
I recently talked to a young lady that that’s been suffering from social anxiety for 6 years. During these years, her anxiety grew stronger and stronger. It grew to the point where she wasn’t able to handle it anymore.
I call this a breaking point because this is the time when you’re ready for a change.
All those years she was suffering from social anxiety and yet she was unable to do anything about it. Her motivation simply wasn’t strong enough because she was still able to handle it.
Eventually, she came to the breaking point that forced her into action.
Here’s the advice that I gave her…
First, I believe that we’re all strong enough to deal with social fears and overcome social anxiety.
We’re all capable of much more than we’re willing to admit to ourselves.
I know that this is easier said than done, but we need to trust in ourselves and our own abilities.
Here’s what I suggest that you do.
Think of a situation that makes you anxious right now and you have to deal with it in the near future.
Now think of all the bad things that could happen to you in this situation. These are the worst-case scenarios and your biggest fears about this situation.
I suggest that you write down these fears on a piece of paper.
Once you have a list of the worst-case scenarios, ask yourself, how likely is this going to happen.
For each scenario, guestimate the likelihood of this actually happening.
You’ll notice that most scenarios are very unlikely to happen.
Once you see this anxiety-provoking situation from a new perspective, you’ll start to feel more comfortable.
You can take this exercise even further and try to come up with things you could do if the worst things really happen. This will prevent automatic anxious thoughts from happening because you’ll know exactly how to act in these situations.
This exercise alone will help you lower your anxiety.
It’s actually a part of my Social Confidence Decoded course, where we go even deeper and where we work on the root cause of your social anxiety.
Removing the root cause is the fastest and most effective way to beat social phobia.
If after doing this exercise, it turns out that social anxiety still gets on top of you, I suggest that you do a simple EFT exercise that will help you bring the anxiety back down in a couple of minutes.
I made a short video where I show you this highly effective technique and you can watch it here.
I believe that you can beat social anxiety.
However, if you think that you need a psychiatrist to help you with this, I suggest that you pick one that is capable of helping you out. Unfortunately, many are not up to this task because they haven’t had social anxiety themselves and can’t really understand how it feels and what it does to you. So, if you decide to go this route, make sure that this psychiatrist gives you some sort of plan of action and doesn’t only prescribe you medications. You deserve better.